Thursday, August 5, 2010

On Leaving Footprints

Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never ever the same.

– Flavia Weedn


Hello, Friends of Midlife Jobhunter,

Julie is away from home for a little while, spending some precious hours in Green Bay, Wisconsin, with her father, who is not doing well. So she's asked me, Fragrant Liar, to guest post. And though she didn't ask me to roast her, I kinda thought it would be fun.

As a writer, one of my favorite subjects is the relationship between friends—particularly women friends, which is sometimes surprisingly hard to come by and therefore all the more valuable and special when you are blessed with it. I couldn't write engaging four-dimensional characters if I didn't have real-life examples to draw from, like Julie.

What I like most about Julie is that she's down to earth, unpretentious, and says what she thinks. This allows us to cut right through the bull I usually like to sling around. Why, in the 9 or 10 years we've been friends, Julie has been known to say the most loving friendship stuff to me. Here are just some of my favorites:
  • Most memorable party invitation: You better show up.

  • Most constructive comment on my manuscript: No.

  • Best cure for boredom: More wine?

  • Best simultaneous activity while star gazing: More wine?

  • Most shared sentiment on a group project: I'm sick of this shit.

  • On raising three sons (vs my 4 daughters): Pink? What's pink?

  • Most dreaded suggestion for joining her at the lake: Don't forget your suit.

  • Most useful advice: So did you dump his ass?

  • When assigned to create a positive affirmation for ME: I hope I get to come see you in Florida.
Real friends leave footprints in your mind and heart -- sometimes on your ego -- always on your character.

Jules, take care of your pops, and treasure the time you have with your family.

43 comments:

  1. I appreciate hearing about the real "Julie." My prayers are with her family.

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  2. I have grown so fond of both Julie and Bernie...everyone should have a friend like Julie and a mother like Bernie (or vice versa) a mother like Julie and a friend like Bernie! My warmest thoughts go out to them both.

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  3. Oh what would we do without friends! I will be keeping Julie and her Dad in my thoughts and prayers.

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  4. Thank you for reminding us how *special* Julie is!

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  5. Love the friendship you have have with Julie.....so special.
    Am keeping Bernie, Julie and the rest of the family in my heart and prayers.....:-) Hugs

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  6. Very nice roast. For a very nice person. Who should indeed take her time tending to her pops. Her "virtual" friends will patiently await her return.

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  7. You're right about friendships; they are special and should be cherished.

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  8. I've seen Julie's fun comments on your blog, FL, but I had never visited her. She sounds like a hoot.

    Friends like this are a treasure.

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  9. My best of wishes and prayers to Julie and her father. She is lucky to have a friend like you.
    Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

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  10. You're lucky to have that kind of friendship. Good luck to Julie's dad.

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  11. First of all hugs to ((((Julie)))...I pray for her father and that her time there is good.

    What a sweet post about this dear woman. How wonderful that you share such a friendship with her and that is such a blessing. I love realness and people just being themselves. When we find people like that we need to hang onto them.

    How nice of you to write for her today. Blessings to you as well. I pray that you are feeling better these days...so hugs to you too. XXXX

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  12. Thanks for the fun insights on Julie :)

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  13. Nice to have a friend fill in, and hope your visit with your Dad is going well.

    More wine. Works for me.

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  14. I will pray for Julie's family.
    Julie sounds like the perfect friend!
    More wine?
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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  15. 堅持是為著某種目的或目標,而持續不斷朝向既定方向努力的一種意念。..................................................

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  16. your friend should really learn to climb down off of the fence and say what she really means...

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  17. Ah yes, friends of the heart. Those people who reside in our hearts, no matter the distance of miles or span of time. And I've no doubt that Julie fits the bill for many whose path she has crossed. My sincerest cyber thoughts go out to her and her family in this difficult time.

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  18. First time here, and yes, true friends are a blessing for sure. Wishing good health for your father.

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  19. Quite fun to have someone else's perspective on Julie - it only confirms what I already thought!
    Hope her dad is able to pull through his difficulties.

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  20. Everyone should have a guest poster like you. Friends are a good thing. Best wishes for Julie's father.

    *leaves bottle of Pur Sang Pouilly Fumé*

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  21. Nice post about friendship. Sounds like you and Julie have a great one.
    I hope things go well for her father.

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  22. I loved reading the roast about Julie. Your friendship is a wonderful thing. Julie, I'm hoping all is going well with your family.

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  23. Charming guest post. She is lucky to have you as such an understanding and honest friend.

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  24. Love and positive thoughts to Julie from here in the UK too.

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  25. I would be lost without my friends. I love each and every one of them and each one is special to me in her own right. Great post. And warm wishes to Julie and her dad. I will keep them both in my thoughts.

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  26. You're such a sweet friend, writing these nice things :-)

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  27. Julie is sharp, straightforward, and so lucky to have a friend like you. She and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Thank you for sharing this.

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  28. I've been thinking of both of you, Julie and Fragrant, which made happening upon this post all the more gratifying. This is lovely, lovely, lovely, and now I have a little swoop in my heart about your friendship and Julie's dad. Good thoughts to you both.

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  29. I'm praying for Julie and her family.
    Joey

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  30. Wonderful post....I really enjoyed it!

    Please tell Julie that she and her family, especially her dad are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  31. So sorry to hear about Julie's dad. Thoughts and prayer for healing. I love this post. Girlfriendships are essential to our well-being.

    Hugs.

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  32. Love and prayers to Julie and her dad.

    Fun to see you here Liar, you and Mid-life are both favorites of mine.

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  33. That photo is way cute.

    Sendig positive vibes to Julie and family during this difficult time.

    You are lucky to have one another because NOTHING takes the place of a great girl friendship.... NOTHING.

    Di

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  34. "So did you dump his ass?" Hahaha!

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  35. Nothing like a good friend's view to round out a person's story. This was so fun to read.

    Sending prayers and love to Julie and her family.

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  36. Julie sounds like my kinda gal. Of course, if she's a friend of yours, she'd have to be. And what a good friend you are to sit in for her.

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  38. Your doing a great job guesting here. Please send my best regards and hopes for quick mendings.

    Love the post.

    From fellow midlife jobhunter, Keri

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  39. I just read Julie's mom's blog and learned of her dad's passing.

    God bless you Julie as you adjust and reflect on the life of your precious father.

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  40. I was going to comment on how much I enjoyed the post itself, but now must merely convey my condolences to Julie and her family.

    And I'm sure Julie's father left footprints on her heart that will remain there forever and ever...

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  41. AH - super 'roast' & toast to Julie! 'MORE WINE' and less whine is what a wonderful girlfriend used to tell me...similar on the 'wine' part - tee hee! Sending healing thoughts and prayers to her dad.

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